Starting A Second Career At Age 60

Donna ReadDonna Read never planned to spend the rest of her life working at a grocery store. But the decent wages and great benefits kept her there for 12 years, until she was fired last summer. At age 58, Read fell into poverty, and into a depression that kept her in bed for three months.

But now Read is going back to school, as she has always wanted, thanks to state retraining benefits for the unemployed. After over a decade of selling groceries and moving boxes, Read will train to become a substance abuse counselor, with the hope of helping the homeless with their addictions -- a struggle that she knows all too well herself. Along the way she also learned some harsh lessons about being laid off at midlife, and starting over.

12 Years of Loyalty

In many ways, the recession battered workers ages 55 or over the hardest; many baby boomers were laid off from companies that they'd been loyal to for decades, and then had less time to start over in new careers and recoup lost savings. In the past few years, older Americans were less likely than those in other age groups to lose their jobs, but were far less likely to find new work if they did. In early 2012, 44 percent of older job seekers had been out of work for at least a year, according to the Pew Fiscal Analysis Initiative. After all, a younger, cheaper worker seems, at first glance, to be a much better investment than 58-year-old Read.

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Read's job at the supermarket chain QFC in Seattle began as a summer gig in the year 2000. She wanted to do something else with her life, but the paycheck wasn't too bad; over 12 years the annual raises brought her to $14.75 an hour. The stability helped her quit drinking and smoking. The generous benefits also covered her various medications -- for cholesterol, thyroid issues, restless leg syndrome and depression.

She was also good at it, she says. For the first eight years, she worked in a store, and always received positive evaluations. Then she moved into the warehouse where QFC made its sandwiches, salads, dressings and dips. "I worked with a bunch of kids who sometimes struggled to keep up with me -- which I was proud of."

'Walmart-ed'

Then last August, Read was fired, two days before her 58th birthday. Her boss said it was because she'd been late four times that year. "I essentially got Walmart-ed," says Read, referring to the common accusation that Walmart tries to keep its staff part-time, so as to avoid paying them benefits. QFC declined to comment on any element of Read's story, saying the company does not discuss personnel matters with the media.

Stunned, and believing the termination was unfair, Read had the union file a grievance on her behalf, and then another a month later, and then another a month after that. During that time, Read could hardly get out of bed. "I was so depressed, and so shocked. I couldn't even wrap my head around the idea that I had been fired."

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Read was still hopeful that she could get her job back, but had nothing to live on while she waited. She had no savings, and says she was unable to get unemployment benefits. This can happen when there are inconsistencies between the employer and employee's stories, according to Sheryl Hutchinson, communications director for Washington's Employment Security Department. So Read applied for food stamps, and then sold most of her clothes and shoes on eBay.

Becoming A Human Being Again

Then something shifted. "I woke up one morning, and I thought, 'I never have to go back there again!' " Read chirps. "It was liberating."

In February, Kroger agreed to give Read $100 for each year she had worked. She thinks that the store settled because it was wary of the possibility of an age-discrimination lawsuit. At the same time, Read was able to get her unemployment benefits too.

"If a worker in a very similar circumstance had not had a union and a union contract that allowed her to challenge that, there wouldn't have been any recourse," Tom Geiger, the spokesman for Read's old union UFCW 21, told AOL Jobs.

"I'm a human being again," Read thought when she got the first check, which she handed straight over to her landlord, who had been letting her live in her apartment rent-free for six months.

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Once Read got on the unemployment rolls, she had a mandatory meeting at WorkSource, the state's resource center for job seekers. That's where she learned about worker retraining programs. "There were ways that it could be completely funded, even books and a bus pass," Read says. "My ears went, 'What!' "

On April 1, Read will start classes at Highline Community College in Des Moines, Wash., to become a certified substance abuse counselor. As a former addict who has spent stretches homeless, it felt suddenly like a calling.

"I've always wanted to do that," says Read, who realizes that she'll be starting her new career at the age of 60. "I can look at my experience, and say, 'This is what I thought about when I wanted a cigarette, or a drink, or to do a line. I know these things for real."

Toilet Paper Thief

But without any income, it's still a hard to get by each day. Read receives $291 a week in unemployment benefits, and three weeks of every month that check goes straight to rent. The final week goes toward utilities, Internet, cat food, and a bus pass. Then she has $16 a week in food stamps.

"You don't think about toilet paper, until you have no money," says Read, who admits that she began pilfering toilet rolls from the Safeway bathroom. "I became a thief, I did! And I felt so bad about it I wanted to confess."

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But overall, her unemployment has given her a new perspective on how she'll spend the final decades of her life. She's been taking more pictures, one of her greatest passions. And selling her belongings and cutting down on shopping, she says, "became a positive thing. ... I realized I had too much stuff."

And while she's excited about her new career, Read's more cynical about the state of her finances. When asked how long she'll keep working, she replies, like 28 percent of Americans, "until I die."

Now feeling back on a positive track, Read has some advice for the millions of other Americans who have been laid off:

1. Go to your state, and throw yourself on their mercy. Read urges people who lack savings to take advantage of all the benefits the state has to offer. "Get food stamps, that's a dignity," she says. "Get Medicaid, that's a dignity."

2. Don't listen to politicians. Read's frustrated by politicians who imply that the people using those services are freeloading in some way. "I paid into it for 30 years, and I had to use it," she says about the safety net. "I don't appreciate politicians, rich people, telling me it shouldn't be an entitlement. I paid for it. I paid for it out of the meager salary I earned all these years, compared to theirs'."

3. It's not about you. "No one has job security whether you think so or not," she continues. "A downturn in the economy can destroy your life. Anyone who is smug and arrogant enough to lump everyone together who's unemployed in the same category as lazy, shiftless -- they need to watch their backs. ... It can happen to anybody."

4. See a therapist. "With Medicaid, get a therapist. ... You slave away at a company for all those years, and they throw you out like you're worthless. It messes with your head," she explains. "Most people think they can do it, particularly women my age. They think they can do it on their own. And some can do. But it's better to have a couple therapy sessions than three months in bed."

5. Go out. Half of unemployed workers have avoided social situations with friends and acquaintances, according to a survey by the John J. Heldrich Center for Workforce Development at Rutgers University. Forty-four percent said they'd lost contact with close friends. "When this happens to you, especially at this age, don't hide. Get help," advises Read. "So many people hide away, and slip into these deep, deep depressions, whether they've had it all their lives or not."
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dmgg711

After 48 years of marriage with a comfortable income with both my husband's and my Social Security and paying the household bills I found myself out of the house with only $672 Social Security. I never dreamt I'd be next to homeless and it's been close to a year in June and I still get teary eyed and depressed thinking how my youngest daughter had turned me out and turned her back on me. Every time my husband tries to come with me she convinces him that he's better off with her and he stays in the house we originally bought for our retirement. She now owns it, with our help and our using the profit when we sold her the house we put it back to build an addition of two bedrooms, bathroom, laundry/craft room, family room, computer room and two large closets plus we gave her $20,000 to buy a car. I took care of my ten year old granddaughter while she worked and two years later she got pregnant with my grandson, who I took care of until last June, when she told me to move out if I wasn't happy there. I had quit my job when my daughter became pregnant so I could take care of the baby when she went back to work. I never took vacations, or went out much because I was taking care of my husband, who has asthma and copd, and my grandchildren. She took two or three vacations per year with the kids and her boyfriend while we stayed home and did projects around the house while they were gone. All the improvements in the home came out of our pocket. I used to work with the city on a temporary basis, six months a year at 10 hrs. Per day and all of my paychecks went to my husband to pay for projects that he had someone do around the house. We put in skylights, security lights around the outside, recessed lighting in our kitchen, landscaping, drip system, oleander bushes all around the back fences, palm trees in a front yard planter, four car stamped concrete driveway, etc., all with my money and I got kicked out of my home. So I learned the hard way that nothing is set in stone and anyone can become close to being homeless in a blink of an eye.

April 29 2015 at 9:40 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
bundox666

I'm 54 and not in the greatest of health and I'm about to lose my job of over 30 years, I don't know what i'm gonna do.What really bugs me about it is the company borrowed millions of dollars to pay their big wigs while moving all their manufacturing jobs to Mexico to save a few bucks on labor costs. And to top it off a co-worker and myself developed their newest surgical needle that they are selling by the hundreds of thousands,if not more, and according to the laws they don't have to give us a cent and besides a small severance package they aren't.

April 17 2015 at 7:30 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Angela J Shirley

Hats off to her landlord that let her stay in her apartment for 6 months without paying rent. You don't find many landlords like that. I have one that did the same thing for about 3 months. And hats off to the union for getting things settled so that she could get her unemployment. I hope this company has learn't its lesson! Wrongful termination can be bad PR. And more employees are talking about their issues with employers = media coverage = messes up the company's image. Love it!!! http://rockportinstitute.com/

December 12 2013 at 6:46 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Jewel Bracy DeMaio

Donna, I think it's so important that you said, "No one has job security whether you think so or not." I've been an executive resume writer and job search strategist for 15 years, and the fact of the matter is: EVERY job is temporary. I'm glad to see you taking the steps to transform into your 2nd career!

April 16 2013 at 5:19 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
jbm489

Without unions there is no overtime, vacation time, pensions (except for CEOs and politiicians) and no job security. No unions cannot do it all, and sometimes the union rep is "sleeping' with the enemy(not literal figuratively) I know. I belonged to a union even though a professional. Without that union I would have had several bumps along the way due to some personality confilicts. What I find ridiculous is training a woman this age in a program that takes 3 to four years. She needs a short term fix like LPN or pharm tech. Also, degrees do not guarantee jobs. With addiction issues she could be hired though.

April 01 2013 at 9:52 PM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply
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donnaread50

Thank you for your reply.

I am not in a 4 year course BECAUSE of my age. I will graduate when I am 60 with a certificate in CDP and will be eligible to work as Certified counselor with any number of programs for the homeless. I have never had an interest in Pharm Tech or LPN jobs and don't feel the least bit ridiculous pursuing something I wholeheartedly believe in but thank you for your suggestions.

I completely agree with you about unions. I was in a different union before transferring to the warehouse and they were definitely 'sleeping with the enemy' when it came to disputes! I was lucky enough to have a truly concerned union rep in the union I belonged to at the end of my job.

I hope if you are ever in a position like mine that you do not compromise a completely attainable dream for fear of 'being ridiculous'.

Good luck to your in your life!

April 02 2013 at 5:18 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
JACKIE

I am with you Spike, I am a retired Teamster and proud of it.I worked for big brown for 34 years. Even with the union they still try to twist the rules around.The union gives the working man a voice.I live in the South they hate unions here. Even our Governor hates unions. Thankfully the Teamsters are a lot more powerful than she is.

April 01 2013 at 11:57 AM Report abuse +2 rate up rate down Reply
spike

Anyone who has the opportunity to join a union and doesn't do it ,is a fool.You do not have a chance by yourself in a fight with a huge corporation.There is strength in numbers.Unions level the playing field for workers.If you have the possibility to join a union, do yourself a huge favor and join today.
I joined a union when I got honorably discharged from the marine corps after my Viet Nam hitch.I have never regretted it.Unions are a blessing.

April 01 2013 at 8:51 AM Report abuse +3 rate up rate down Reply
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Tom

That is some bad infomation. While I do work for a union company. I am NOT represented by a union. While being in a union has some benefits it also has a big flaw. In the early years Unions were needed but not now. Ask those that had worked for Rockwell Int. or Western Elactric and many other large manufacturing companies paying well. After ( Slick Willy ) Clinton had signed NAFTA which had made it easy for those big companies to move off shore and ship their goods back cheaply. The Unions did not look ahead and pushed them for more and more. And then they moved just like Ross Perot had predicted when he was running for President. But our liberals were too smart to vote for a wealthy man in the 1%. So we got Slick Willy and the rest is history. And by the way he is also the one that had signed the Glass-Steagel Act which had losened the restrictions on the banks. (housing bubble). Way to go libs. Just follow your leader and don't use your own head and look ahead. Every action has an equal and opposite reaction. Just watch Obamacare

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dmgg711

Obamacare is for the poor for sure and the unemployed. Before Obamacare my daughter was disabled and had health issues. The County took care of her medical and she was at a County clinic for six years with a gall bladder operation which didn't go well. She had doctors prescribing her prescription drugs for "just in case" because they could find the health problems my daughter had. The hospital's billing department didn't submit bills to the county so they didn't get paid and they sent the bills to collections and a bad record at the credit bureaus. When Obamacare came into affect my daughter got healthcare and Medicaid and a real PCP who took care of all her health issues plus cut down on all her medications. She had surgery, and was able to go on disability. She in on the road to recovery and should be able to return to work with limitations but at least she can earn a living again. Six years of pain with no end in sight to new hope under Obamacare helping with her care. Don't knock what works for the less fortunate because you never know when you will be in the receiving end. The present way of life is no guarantee and never say never because that never will be a reality when it happens to you.

April 29 2015 at 9:53 PM Report abuse rate up rate down

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