How To Develop Powerful Contacts and Connections -- Fast
The most frequently offered word of career advice is "network." The problem is that by the time you make a deep enough connection with enough people that one of them knows of a great-fit job for you and pulls strings enough that you land the job, you may be eating cat food.
There's a shortcut to creating deep connection in just the first few minutes after you meet someone:
2. Get the person to talk about it.
3. Listen closely and empathically, asking questions, and revealing equally about yourself.
3a. If you sense s/he'd welcome a suggestion, tactfully offer it.
Let me demonstrate. Let's say you meet someone at a professional event:
She: Sure is.
You: I'm Joe Jobseeker. I'm an foreman in a manufacturing plant. Well, I was until last week. The union was pushing them pretty hard and so the company closed the whole plant and is having the products manufactured in China. (Without sounding self-pitying or desperate, disclosing early sets the stage for early deep connection.)
She: I'm so sorry.
Me: I'll find something. What about you? I hope you haven't been axed! (Humor helps.)
She: Not recently. I'm in marketing. (He notices that she said it in a flat tone.)
He: (Using a light tone:) You sound thrilled with it.
She: No, it's OK. It's just that with three kids, my plate is pretty full. (Aha! Her children could be a hot button. You'll know that if she becomes more animated while talking about her kids.)
You: I can understand. How old are your kids?
She talks, you listen, sharing parallel experiences and showing empathy, and perhaps tactfully offering a suggestion. For example:
She: That would be great.
When you sense that she's feeling reasonably connected and/or grateful to you, whether in that first meeting or the follow-up phone call or email, make The Ask:
If she knows someone, she may tell you ... even though you just met.
Put yourself in situations where have lots of opportunities to make deep connection with people who might help you land a job and you may well land one long before you'd have to eat cat food.
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The San Francisco Bay Guardian called Dr. Nemko "The Bay Area's Best Career Coach" and he was Contributing Editor for Careers at U.S. News where he now also blogs. His sixth and seventh books were published in 2012: How to Do Life: What They Didn't Teach You in School and What's the Big Idea? 39 Disruptive Proposals for a Better America. More than 1,000 of his published writings are free on www.martynemko.com. He posts here weekly.
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