Confessions Of A Flight Attendant: 'It's As Crazy As You Think'

Flight attendant confessions

The allure of routine travel to exotic locales makes a career as a flight attendant especially appealing to many job seekers. So much so, in fact, that more than 20,000 people recently applied with American Airlines to fill just 1,500 flight attendant jobs, prompting the airline to largely quit accepting new applications.

But what is it really like to work as a flight attendant these days? Is it worth enduring the intense competition for one of these jobs? Recently a Reddit user claiming to be a flight attendant posted her experiences on Reddit's "Ask Me Anything" subsite, where Reddit readers can ask questions of notable and not-so-notable people. [Note: Reddit's "Ask Me Anything" section uses anonymous sources, which can't be verified. Excerpts that appear here retain their original spelling and grammar.]

The contributor, who claims to work for a "4 star rated airline" (a group that includes Air France, Emirates, British Airways and several others), notes that being a flight attendant is "as crazy as you think." The user, who refers to herself as a stewardess, goes by the handle c0ffeetea0rme. She claimed to have received "crazy" requests from passengers, such as "a bag to spit in," "soft food I will have rice" (though rice wasn't on the menu), "hot fried chips," and "my [phone] number."

Reddit users asked about whether the "Mile High Club" exists, and c0ffeetea0rme confirmed that couples do, indeed, attempt sex on planes. But she didn't advise it. "Let me tell you something, those toilets are FILTHY. Absolute FILTH." She also offered some tips on how to get upgraded, noting an instance in which a passenger several times changed seats to accommodate families and a couple traveling together. "So we moved him to business class. Lesson, be nice!" c0ffeetea0rme wrote.

Her job pays about $38,000 a year, she says, plus she receives "free rent transport and bills, all I pay is internet and taxi. 90% Off tickets." At that wage, c0ffeetea0rme nearly earns exactly the median $37,740 annual salary published in the Bureau of Labor Statistics Occupational Outlook Handbook. The entry also notes that a high school diploma is all that's required to become a flight attendant, though many U.S. airlines prefer applicants to have a college degree.

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Some 90,000 Americans make a living as flight attendants, according to the Handbook, which forecasts little or no growth in the number of jobs in the field through 2020. What's more, reports suggest working conditions have only gotten worse as many airlines struggle financially.

Despite the avalanche of applications it received, American Airlines, in fact, is in bankruptcy, and it has changed flight attendants' contracts, requiring them to work more hours and pay more for medical insurance, according to the Dallas Morning News.

With airlines flying fewer flights, flight attendants also have experienced increased stress, as they try to accommodate more and grumpier passengers, ABC News reports.

Being human, flight attendants don't always handle that stress so well. Take the case of American Eagle flight attendant Jose Serrano who roughly invited passengers to deplane in Raleigh-Durham, N.C., last June. "If you have balls to want to get off, I'll let you get off. Get off," he said into the plane's PA system.

There's also the case of Steven Slater, the JetBlue Airways flight attendant who infamously slid his way out of a job two years ago. The 20-year airline veteran chewed out a passenger on the plane's PA system and then announced he was quitting. Slater then grabbed a beer before making his grand escape down the emergency slide. He was later arrested.

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"Due to 9/11, the job has become more stressful, because when passengers get on they're already stressed," Sheila Dail, a US Airways flight attendant told ABC News. Dail was among three flight attendants aboard flight 1549 when it left New York City's LaGuardia Airport in 2009, struck a flock of Canada geese and was forced to land in the Hudson River.

Dail was unable to sleep for days and felt isolated after the ordeal because she had no one to talk to about it. The experience prompted Dail to found a hotline, called Critical Incident Response Hotline, or CIRP, to aid flight attendants who find themselves in crisis.

The training that flight attendants (and pilots) receive during their years of service helps to prepare them to handle emergencies -- but not necessarily the aftermath, US Airways CEO Doug Parker told the network.

It can "still be a traumatic event when it happens," he said, and having peers to talk with helps flight attendants better deal with the experience.

Fortunately, for most flight attendants their memorable experiences tend more to be humorous or ridiculous rather than tragic, which has prompted no shortage of tell-alls about the profession (not unlike those of c0ffeetea0rme).

Other confessors include Heather Poole, who has worked as a flight attendant at a major airline for more than 15 years, and has written a book about her experiences, Cruising Attitude: Tales of Crashpads, Crew Drama, and Crazy Passengers at 35,000 Feet.

Among her many insights, Poole notes one reason that many flight attendants quit so early in their careers: low pay.

"No one becomes a flight attendant for the money!" Poole recently wrote on AOL Jobs' sister site,, where she pens the "Galley Gossip" blog. "While $20 an hour may look good on paper," she says, "the reality is it doesn't add up to much."

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Thanks to the unnecessary TSA, people are stressed to the point of breaking before even entering the planes. Then dealing with rude passengers and flight attendants adds insult to injury. Then you have your knees crushed by the person in front of you and fight over the arm rest with the person(s) next to. Woe unto them that hath must sit in the center seat. It's too much for me. I've had it and pretty much stick to teleconferences now.

August 29 2014 at 11:39 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

I don't think anybody has a job for fun and beiing a flite attendent is not that hard,there is a lot of ''sitting down'',
and free time between flights.If you don't like it look for another job.

August 29 2014 at 4:51 PM Report abuse -1 rate up rate down Reply
1 reply to hendrik's comment

Spoken like someone who has never dealt with the public much--traveling or not.

August 29 2014 at 10:23 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

I am not shocked .In the wake of profit making all air lines have added more seats in the planes at the expense of passengers discomfort .The airlines do not care how they make the money as long a they do .It is nothing but the rip off .As a passenger you pay for the bags (which many years back use to be free ) ,you pay for the drink .If you weigh more you have to reserve two seats ( but they do not give you refund if you are skinny } .some air lines can also dictate what kind of clothes you can wear on the plane .I have a great suggestions for the air ports security and the airlines to save money or make more money.The airlines should require all passengers to wear hospital gowns , gowns which are open on all sides .That will be easy for the security to check and also it wll be less weight foe planes to carry giving more mileage for the planes adding it to the bottom line.They can also charge for the logos on the gowns or rent the gowns .Idea worth looking in to

August 29 2014 at 2:52 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

When you are flying remember that flight attendents are NOT the TSA- they did not xray you or pat you down. Flight attendents also did NOT configure the cramped seating in coach class. Flight attendents did NOT make those crappy meals- they only serve them.
Show a little respect and maybe you will get some respect in return.

November 04 2013 at 2:57 AM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply

I think flight attendants have a very hard job. Serving all those box lunches and drinks makes them a glorified waitress/waiter. Dealing with the public is never easy.

July 28 2013 at 3:10 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

It's not a thing of beauty. It's hard work. It's not difficult work, it's mundane. The glamor is gone and your workmates are either worn out, burnt out, gay or praising God. It is a job where a moment in time will keep you from advancing your position or keeping you just ahead of the junior stiffs. Seniority is everything. Being junior is your ticket to cleaning the potties and the vomit and working on Christmas and Thanksgiving. Your boss will have a flaming ego and all airlines manage their F/A's by intimidation. You have no name as far as the company goes.. just a number your scheduler will use to fill a square thereby sending you to Beijing when your husband is expecting you in Honolulu for an overdue romantic time. You learn the pilots get everything and you, the flight attendants get ... not enough! Worst of all, in a pinch, you learn the airlines will hire 18 year old high school grads and train them in just 5 weeks, interview to on the job- as replacement Flight Attendants ... all with the blessing of the FAA ... and as if staying married is not hard enough, being a flight attendant crew member will make it more difficult. If you think your cut out for this work ... your probably are. Welcome to the family!

December 07 2012 at 3:13 AM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply
1 reply to johnlwings's comment

Well said. Airline work is indeed hard, and the public is not aware of just how hard it is. Thankfully most airline employees have Union Representation or it would be even worse.

January 30 2013 at 5:43 AM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply

Unfortunately, it really is a service related job. Not many of the service related jobs pay more than $10/hour.
I know having said that, I will hear about how the primary function is safety, but in reality the job is service to customers.
And unfortunately, like their peers in the restaurant and hotel industries they have to put up with the General Public and that can be Hell. I don't envy them!

December 06 2012 at 10:08 AM Report abuse -1 rate up rate down Reply
1 reply to butter91160's comment

It's all of the above...... in an emergency, you need those flight attendants to keep the sheeple from panicking and stampeding. You may be one of those sheeple and not know it.

August 29 2014 at 10:25 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

Choices, choices.

December 06 2012 at 10:07 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

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