Office Romances On The Rise -- Again

Millennials dating office relationshipsBy Kathryn Tuggle


What's the difference between the office and a singles bar? Well, nothing for some millennials.

According to a study by employee benefits provider Workplace Options, 84 percent of employees aged 18 to 29 say they would date a co-worker, and 71 percent say they think workplace romance is a positive thing that improves performance and morale. Their older colleagues disagree, as only 29 percent of those aged 46 to 65 say they'd consider dating someone they worked with, and 90 percent say it could do more harm than good.

"The first thing that pops up is the difference in attitude between the generations," says Dean Debnam, president and CEO of Workplace Options. "The millennials are looking at this through rose-colored glasses. Workplace relationships can have a negative effect if they aren't managed well."

Debnam also notes how the different age groups view social networking and what is appropriate to post online. "What we found to be the most horrifying is that 40 percent of millennials said it was OK to date a supervisor and then use social media to advertise that," says Debnam. "Corporations have to make sure they have a clear policy in place and that their new hires are put through sexual harassment and standards training."

Millennials may be more willing to date a co-worker because they are early in their career, says Jean Baur, career coach and author of Job Interview Answers that Work.

"Older workers grew up in a time where dating a co-worker was considered really dangerous if not downright stupid, and they know that once you have a good job, you don't want to lose it," she says. "Millennials are less committed to staying with a company because they are early in their career. They think, 'If something happens, oh well, I can find another job.'"

Although younger people may be more willing to get to know co-workers outside the office, Baur says the concept of dating in the workplace is nothing new.

"It's just human nature," she says. "But inevitably, people fail to think about what will happen when the relationship ends. I hear far more stories about people getting romantically involved where it doesn't work out. Everyone fails to ask the question as to whether the person is important enough to risk your job for."

As far as the risks of having an office affair, Baur says it depends a lot on the size of the company. At smaller offices where everyone knows one another, it would be incredibly difficult to hide a relationship. At larger corporations with multiple departments or floors, it could be easier to hide a romantic entanglement. But sometimes "hiding" the relationship isn't enough.

Many corporations have strict no-dating policies in place, according Alan Lesnewich, partner and employment attorney at the New Jersey office of Fisher & Phillips.

"Some companies have strict non-fraternization policies in place, and dating a co-worker can be a firing offense," says Lesnewich. "The trick is enforcing these policies. It's almost impossible to police, and if you have two people dating who are critical to the success of the company, then exceptions get made."

Younger people may be more likely to date in the workplace today because more companies are now owned and run by a younger generation, says Lesnewich.

"Look at the Facebooks of the world. They are primarily staffed by younger people new to the work force, and I wonder if they've even considered having a non-fraternization policy," he says. "Now that we are seeing younger CEOs, CFOs and executives, you're going to see more relaxed policies with things like this."

Yet even at companies where dating a colleague is considered acceptable, it can still mean big trouble in the form of lawsuits and settlements if the relationships don't work out.

"It's not like the fairy tales where people live happily ever after. Everything that was consensual and blissful turns into sexual harassment and worse. I have not heard of a lot of long-term relationships coming out of an office environment," he says. "What I do hear of are lawsuits that lead to an employee getting paid a significant amount to settle the matter and leave the workplace."

But as long as there are no specific office policies that enforce a strict "no dating" policy, a low-profile, no-drama relationship is usually fair game, says Suki Shah, co-founder and CEO at GetHired.com, a hiring consultancy for small- and medium-sized businesses.

"The most important thing to remember when dating a co-worker is to keep your relationship strictly professional inside of the office," says Shah. "No holding hands, kissing, inappropriate touching, footsie under the conference room table, etc. Basically, if you couldn't do it in front of your grandmother, don't do it in the office."

With the increased popularity of online dating, it's not difficult for workers to find and access personal information about each other online, including who they may be looking to date, says Shah. Today, more people are working longer hours than ever, and the stigma of dating a co-worker is quickly subsiding.

According to the survey, 47 percent of people report having observed workplace romances, and 57 percent say that if they did engage in a relationship with a colleague, they wouldn't bother keeping it quiet-sharing it with friends and colleagues alike.

"It's possible to find your future husband and wife at the office," says Baur. "Of course it's also possible to spend a few years sleeping your way to the top. There are risks involved with both."



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IN MY OPINION ONLY

Of course they got nothing better to do, they are in heavy debt, their parents losing their homes, they cannot afford auto insurance, so they just decide to flirt on the job. It's gonna to wreck everything in the next decade.

April 23 2012 at 1:10 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
estimatorone

I, personally, do not think that dating co-workers is a good idea.
I have seen, more often then not, the conflicts that are caused
when the relationship does not work out. Each party's work
sometimes suffers. Uncomfortable situations arise. I have
even seen good, valuable employees, leave so that they do
not have to encounter each other daily. However, sometimes
I have seen things work out well, and some have even gone
on to be married. However, that was rare compared to the
relationships that did not work out. Crunching the numbers,
possible fall out - not a good idea.

April 23 2012 at 12:44 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Sooner Dog

Keep it real please, some date a co worker to advance...their career.

April 22 2012 at 11:21 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
babby201

I guess its understandable when you consider it to be a natural continuation of the social and emotional connections made in co ed schools .
The upside is you see people in their everyday interactions with adults in their professional field .
You get to observe them ,and how responsible they are .
THE DOWNSIDE , should you hook up with a pscyho , you could have to make a choice between leaving a good job ,or suffering through hell , either way , when you step in IT , the smell follows you about.
Or as Mrs Casterrini says in 'Moon Struck' , "Don't **** where you eat"

April 22 2012 at 5:53 PM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply
hvr2011

It's merely a 'time saving' method ... : - )

April 22 2012 at 5:31 PM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply
PEGGY

"Office Romances on the Rise!" Romance! Don't white wash it. For decades my husband and I have been employed at some large corp. offices. Over 40% of the employes have had a sexual relationships with each other. It's like on huge "swapping" party.

April 20 2012 at 12:12 AM Report abuse +2 rate up rate down Reply
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TIMOTHY

Sounds like my place of employment. LOL

April 22 2012 at 5:52 PM Report abuse +2 rate up rate down Reply

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