5 Tell-Tale Signs That Your Co-Workers Are Dating

coworkers are datingBy Charyn Pfeuffer


That "will they or won't they" tension can be palpable in the workplace. Although Jim Halpert and Pam Beesley of the hit series, The Office have done their best to bring the co-worker-with-benefits scenario to the mainstream, many companies (and fellow workers) still frown upon interoffice romances.

That doesn't mean co-workers aren't swapping spit in the supply closet when you aren't paying attention. According to career website Vault.com, in its 2011 Office Romance Survey, more than half of respondents fessed up to having a fling with a colleague.

Not all office mating signs are so obvious, but sometimes even the stealthiest of hook-ups slip-up. Here are five tell-tale signs that your co-worker may be making a move on the hottie down the hall.


Sign No. 1: Hyper-Attention

Kayt Sukel, author of Dirty Minds: How Our Brains Influence Love, Sex, and Relationships (Free Press, 2012) says that people who are romantically involved get a little obsessed with their intended, especially initially. "Just the sound of that special someone's name can change their focus and behavior, to the point where you can see physical changes in the brain," says Sukel. "If your cubicle mate suddenly has to join in every conversation mentioning that one cute guy, seems very aware of where he is, what he says and what he's doing, and makes a point of bringing him up whenever she can, there's a good chance there is a romance on the horizon."


Sign No. 2: Hanging Out

Sophia Lam, 30, crossed paths with her now-husband, Roger when they both worked as customer service representatives at eBay in Burnaby, British Columbia. Initially, they didn't feel any attraction until they started to hang out in the same circle of co-workers about a year and a half later. "We (the group) would go to the same birthday parties, work functions, and dinners," says Lam. "Our co-workers told us we would make a great couple, but we didn't think anything of it until he drove me home one day." The couple decided to come clean with their closest colleagues, who initially made some jokes. But they weren't lovey-dovey in the workplace, so co-workers respected their space and professionalism.


Sign No. 3: Touching

Relationship expert and author, Roland Hines, age 45, has been on both side of the co-worker dating fence as an employer and employee. As an employer, the Angeleno included a non-fraternization clause in his new hire paperwork, but remembers the tell-tale signs of attraction well. "Employees would frequently schedule lunch time or breaks together, but the biggest giveaway was flirtatious touching," says Hines. "A woman would place her hand on a man's chest or he would grasp her hand with familiarity -- they tried to make it appear as if there was no connection, but clearly there was."


Sign No. 4: Digital Evidence

Between email, Facebook, texting and Twitter, technology can make flirting in the workplace oh so convenient, but it can also be a fast track for disaster. Stephanie Losee and Healine Olen, authors of Office Mate: Your Employee Handbook for Romance on the Job, say that sending sexy texts from your company issued mobile or computer is an easy way to leave a traceable trail of your tryst. Nosy or not, it's not impossible for your cubicle mate to sneak a peek of a love note if you accidentally leave it on your computer screen.


Sign No. 5: Timing Is Everything

Morgan Phillips is a manager at Oddfellow's Cafe in Seattle. With more than two decades of experience in the restaurant industry, he's seen his fair share of workplace sparks fly. "You can tell when workers are dating by their timing – they stop talking when people are around, never can be found at the same place at the same time, and show up at work two minutes apart," says Phillips. "In the food and beverage industry, the end of work often marks the beginning of play without a change of venue. Couple that with a few post-shift cocktails and things happen."




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Tori Amri

I just wanted to express my gratitude and appreciation to prophet salifu on bringing my husband back to me,I was married for 9 years to my husband and all of a sudden, he started seeing another lady at work.he started hailing at me and he was abusive.. and he stop careing for me, but I still loved him with all my heart .the situation made me unsettle and not to focus at work .so someone told me about trying spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell caster? i did not listen to her . i kept on hoping that my husband will come back home . after a month it got out of hand and my husband came back home to break the news to me that he want a divorce that he is getting married to the other lady .Hmmm it was so shocking to me ,i felt sad and depressed ,so i contacted my friend again and decieded to try to use spiritual means reluctantly..although I didn't believe in all those things? I never thought in a million years that i will get my husband back to me a again. but I was proved wrong.after 2days, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn't believe it that we are back together. Prophet salifu remained consistent and kind throughout and made the process unbelievable I am deeply satisfied and thankful .if in doubt you should email him at prophetsalifu@yahoo.com or prophetsalifu@gmail.com

January 22 2014 at 5:18 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Anita

well as a general rule for myself when i was dating no i would not have done it but as long as it dont get too out of hand on company time i didnt care what my coworkers did as long as they did their jobs

February 15 2012 at 4:35 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
bigcatdaddy

It is fun "dating" the women at work. especially the older married ones. Their husbands give them no attention, and they are perfect to hone in on and give them what they need. They really react to in a positive way. Almost like they are virgins again.

February 15 2012 at 2:06 AM Report abuse -1 rate up rate down Reply
MICHAEL

Obama and Nancy Pelosi are getting dirty in the white house.

February 15 2012 at 1:44 AM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply
my aol

My ex work for a health club, and the front desk slut slept with most of the men that worked there, married or not!

February 15 2012 at 12:58 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
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Dan

which health club is this?

February 15 2012 at 2:07 AM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply
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thelatescottbaio

beat me to it

February 15 2012 at 2:49 AM Report abuse rate up rate down
gfgarv

I don't care if they are dating. I'm certainly not going to see if they are touching or stealing looks because I don't care.

February 14 2012 at 11:39 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
paladindave7247

As long as you can either leave your personal stuff at the door, or not let it affect your work decisions, it shouldn't matter if you're dating a co-worker/subordinate/boss/etc. You could meet the person you're meant to marry but because of arbitrary rules, you have to pass up the opportunity and regret it every. single. day. And if there's a problem, deal with it then. People are people, not machines.

February 14 2012 at 11:27 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
toddmayor

ya never **** where you eat or to be proper ya don't play where ya get yer pay

February 14 2012 at 10:43 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
dda501958

so what, fing solves so many problems and relieves tension.

February 14 2012 at 10:34 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
GREG

met my wife of 21 years at the restaurant we worked at

February 14 2012 at 9:01 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

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