Your Guide To Gaining Respect In The Workplace

It's nice to be liked. But it's better to be respected.

The two things aren't mutually exclusive. Both can occur at the same time. But if you are going to pursue one, we'd suggest going after respect.

Earning the respect of your coworkers and boss can be a difficult undertaking, but well worth it. Check out our tips for how to gain – and avoid losing – respect in the workplace.


1. Do What You Say You Will

Good ideas and good intentions are a great starting point. But at the end of the workday, it's the follow-through that counts. Earn respect in the workplace by doing what you are supposed to do, and what you say you'll do. Complete tasks. Show up on time. Be dependable. Don't dump work on other people.


2. Be an Office Moderate

We know, when it comes to politics, partisans hate a middle of the roader. Pejoratives abound: Fence sitter. Whimp. Switzerland! In the office, however, try not to get embroiled in petty disputes. Be a sounding board, if you must. Listen. Nod. But don't take sides. It takes some backbone to be an office moderate. Other people who are turned off by office politics will notice that you stay above the fray.

This isn't a call to eschew ever taking a position on office matters. If it's something important – something that affects your company, your career, your career happiness – by all means, state your case.


3. Give Respect

Oh, you may be thinking, real original. The old you got to give it to get it thing. Sure, this isn't the newest advice. But it's sound advice, for sure. And even tried and true advice should be reiterated on occasion (so, yeah, look both ways before you cross the street ... and wash your hands after using the restroom).

Thus we reiterate: Respect, you have to give it to get it.

You know what to do: Be polite. Be attentive. Don't be mean or rude. Try not to offend (reasonable people). Generally, treat people the way you'd like to be treated.


4. Give Credit

Have you ever been passed over when people were getting praised for a project on which you participated? Doesn't feel good. And, whether the oversight is intentional or not, it feels like a snub. No matter how small someone's contribution to a project, give them credit. Sharing credit is a great way to earn respect in the office. It shows that you are fair, a team player and that you want others to succeed.


5. Keep an Open Mind

As tips 3 and 4 attest, it's good to give. But it's OK to take as well. In fact, you should take – take advice and constructive criticism from coworkers, and take it with an open mind. Listen to ideas. Seek feedback. If the criticism is apt, or the suggestion is good, you stand to benefit. If they aren't those things, just receive the input and move on. Being able to take criticism and suggestions well shows that you are confident, and people respect confidence.


6. Don't Blur the Line

We spend a lot of time with our coworkers. Often, we get to know them too well. Sometimes the line between professional and personal can start to blur. Beware. As the man says: Familiarity breeds contempt. Maintain a clear boundary between your work life and your personal life. Keep your professional distance (this, of course, is not absolute ... just a guideline. It is very possible that a coworker can develop into a real friend). And, maintain decorum at extracurricular events. By all means, have fun, enjoy yourself. But don't have too much fun (yeah, we're talking about booze).


7. Don't be a Kiss-Up

Want a sure-fire, never-fail way to lose respect in the workplace? Become a kiss-up. The office kiss-up is loathed by the rank and file and management alike. Your coworkers will look down on your attempts to circumvent respectable means of job advancement. And your boss will view your kissing up as an attempt at manipulation. It's a lose-lose.


8. Don't be a Mouse

If you're interested in gaining respect in the workplace, people have to know you are there. It's not enough just to sit at your computer all day – silent, head down – doing your work. Sure, reliability is a necessary attribute for acquiring respect. But it will only get you so far. You need to have ideas, suggestions, feedback. You must assert yourself. You need to become a resource for others, a go-to guy.


9. Don't be Defensive

Being defensive when it comes to suggestions and criticism from your boss or coworkers is a sign that you lack confidence. Respect follows confidence. Lack confidence, lose respect. If it's not insecurity causing defensiveness, chances are it's ego. Disregarding good ideas because you didn't think of them will make you seem silly and pig-headed. Use good suggestions. Incorporate the good ideas of others (credit them!) into your work.


10. Don't be Dismal

No one wants to be around someone who has a negative outlook. So be positive. That's not to say you have to plaster a smile on your face and make believe everything is sunshine and roses. But it does mean that you should have a generally good attitude, even when dealing with not-so-good news. Having a positive outlook shows people that you are even-keeled, rather than unbalanced and depressed. But watch out: An unnatural, artificial effervescence also can thwart attempts to gain respect.

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Devon Social Fluency

Samantha is right, I say blur the heck out of that line. As long as you do your job well and are assertive with your co-workers so that contempt never has a chance to develop then I say go a step further then being friends... become a family. We spend 8 hours a day at work... it should be fun!

December 02 2011 at 2:59 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Samantha

I have to say, I don't 100% agree with 'don't blur the line'. Sure, as far as respect is concerned, that makes sense. But there is a lot more to work, and even more to getting ahead, than just respect. My number one piece of advice for anyone looking to gain an edge in the workplace is to go out for drinks every chance you get. When you are invited out, and you accept, it does wonders for your work environment. Obviously, politeness and not getting wasted are important, but I never worry about 'blurring the line' too much.

November 28 2011 at 1:41 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
MyCollegesandCareers

One thing that's important is to establish professional boundaries and maintain them. Especially if you have challenges with some colleagues or management, it's important to say what you need to say and people will respect you more for it. -Sarah

November 15 2011 at 6:30 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

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