If You Can't Bring Home the Bacon, Don't Even Think About Marriage
The days of women staying at home "barefoot and pregnant" while the man goes out to tame the big bad world are officially over. New research finds that 65 percent of the women surveyed said they would not feel comfortable getting married if they were unemployed. They want to contribute their fair share.
But that doesn't let men off the hook when it comes to breadwinning: 75 percent of the women surveyed said they would not marry someone who was unemployed. Those stats are fresh from a study conducted by ForbesWoman, a prominent site for professional and career-minded women in conjunction with YourTango.com, a love and relationship site.
"With the recent unemployment rate up to 9.1 percent, joblessness is an increasingly pervasive issue -- especially for women as they consider the fiscal and emotional stability of their romantic future," said Andrea Miller, founder and CEO, YourTango.com. "From money woes to resentment, joblessness can create great strain on relationships. Before women enter into a lifetime commitment, they want to feel secure in what their partner can bring to the table."
There seems to be a bit of a disconnect when it comes to ideals, however: More than 91 percent of the single women surveyed said they would marry for love over money. "It is ironic that women place more weight on love than money, yet won't marry if they or their potential suitor is unemployed," said ForbesWoman reporter Meghan Casserly. "A job can make or break the longevity of a relationship and the results of the survey demonstrate just what an important role careers play in romance."
The survey found further evidence in how jobs can effect a relationship:
Sleepless Nights: 40 percent of women in a relationship said their job responsibilities were most likely to keep them up at night, while job responsibilities and love life tied as the two factors most likely to keep single women awake.
Money Makes the World Go Around: 32 percent of women in a relationship make more money than their partner. 50 percent of women would marry someone who earned significantly less than them, while 41 percent responded that they wouldn't marry someone who earned significantly less than them.
Career vs. Kids: 55 percent would give up their career to take care of kids if their partner asked them to do so, while only 28 percent would ask the same of their partner.
|Yes, of course I would!||111 (8.2%)|
|Not a snowball's chance!||612 (45.4%)|
|Depends on the circumstances.||626 (46.4%)|
Me Time: If the women could find an extra hour in each day, 42 percent said they would spend it by themselves, as opposed to with their partner, friends or family or on work.
Living the Dream: 77 percent of those surveyed said that they believe women can simultaneously have a fulfilling relationship and family life, as well as a successful career.
In essence, the survey found that working women, both single and in a relationship, are still intent on "having it all." Whether or not they buy into the notion that "you can have it all, just not all at the same time," remains to be seen.
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Lisa Johnson Mandell is an award-winning multi-media journalist and author of Career Comeback--Repackage Yourself to Get the Job You Want. Her work has been translated into 20 different languages, and she is a frequent expert guest and commentator on news and talk shows. She has been featured in The Wall St. Journal, on the CBS Early Show, NBC Today, CNBC, Fox Business News, Dr. Phil, Oprah.com and many other media outlets. Lisa discusses her AOL pieces each week and interviews vital guests on the web TV show, This Week in Careers. Learn more on LisaJohnsonMandell.com.