Odds Better for Finding Future Spouse at Work than on Most Dating Sites

job interview February is everyone's favorite time of year to investigate the pros and cons of romantic relationships that bloom in the workplace. Most are coming up with the same results, however: Workers are turning to the once "taboo" office pool in search of companionship, and it appears to be paying off.

CareerBuilder's annual office romance survey found that 31 percent of workers say they have dated someone they work with over their career; 11 percent report dating co-workers at least twice during their career. Of those who have dated in the workplace, nearly one in 10 workers (8 percent) say they have dated someone at work within the last year.

Additionally, 38 percent report they went on to marry the person they dated in the office. That's better odds than on most dating websites! The survey also showed the repercussions of workplace romance, with 6 percent of workers saying they have left a job due to an office romance.

When it comes to dating higher-ups, women were more likely than men to date someone above them in their company's hierarchy. Twenty-six percent of women said they have dated someone who holds a higher position in their organization; 17 percent of men report they have done the same.

Some workplace relationships may have their beginnings in current workplace crushes. Nine percent of workers currently work with someone whom they would like to date, with more men (16 percent) than women (2 percent) reporting they would like to do so.

Eighteen percent of workers reported that their relationships started at lunch. Some other situations where Cupid's arrow flew between co-workers include:

  • Happy hour
  • Working late at the office
  • Company holiday party
  • Business trip

"Workplace relationships no longer carry the stigma they once did, as 34 percent of workers said they aren't keeping their romance a secret. However, it is the responsibility of the individuals to understand company policy and make sure they adhere to it," said Rosemary Haefner, vice president of human resources at CareerBuilder. "Especially in this economy, workers are spending more time in the office, and the lines between working and socializing are being crossed. Workers need to keep it professional under all circumstances, though, to ensure that the quality of their work is not negatively impacted."

Haefner offers the following tips for workers who may want to spark a workplace romance:

  • Know your company's policy on office dating: While some companies may have a formal policy, others may not have anything at all. Make sure both parties in the relationship are aware of potential rules or consequences.
  • Social media – office relationship friend or foe?: Before you start posting pictures and status updates about your newfound coupledom, it may be better to inform your co-workers or boss in person. That way, there is less chance for gossip or speculation.
  • Keep the relationship out of the office: Do your best to maintain professionalism and not let the dating issues affect your performance or others on the job.

Next: AOL Jobs' Special: Love at Work

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only a fool sleeps around at work , the boss, the married co worker ,
Remember the psycotic attacks at work when they break up , so the spurned lover goes postal .

February 14 2011 at 2:55 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

Momma always said...... "Don't get your meat where you get your bread"

February 14 2011 at 2:13 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

Don't dip your pen in the company inkwell...

February 14 2011 at 1:54 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

I can't recommend dating co-workers. It really leaves a door open to future trouble, especially when the romance ends or goes sour. If the romance does work then there's the problem of nepotism.

February 14 2011 at 11:59 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

I met my now ex husband at work...the problem was he also met his mistress there too!

February 14 2011 at 10:09 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

I met my wife at work. We were happily married for ten years before she passed away from leukemia. The great thing about meeting someone from work is that you actually get to somewhat know them from working with them. In my case, my wife and I became best friends long before we became romantically involved. Marrying your best friend is always a plus, but that is difficult to do when you just meet someone blind. It takes a long time to build a lasting friendship.

On the downside, once you are in a relationship, working together can prove troublesome in some cases. In my case, my wife eventually found a job with a different company because working under me was not working out. Still, I do agree that the workplace is a great place to meet someone. It certainly worked for me.

February 14 2011 at 12:12 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

Another good place is in professional groups. I've had a couple of relationships that started that way; it's someone you can "talk shop" with the way most partners can't, can appreciate the hassles of what you go through (much as I love my sister, she can't relate to my complaints the way a colleague can). I said something to the latest partner about "you know how that goes", and got immediate sympathy, rather than having to relive the problem in explaining it to Sis. No, the relationships haven't (yet) ended at the altar, but they were fun while they lasted.

February 13 2011 at 8:34 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

Dating at work causes job loss. Resentment,retaliation, extortion etc is the result of workplace dating.

February 13 2011 at 8:23 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

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