Darlene Greene Fights Against Domestic Abuse. We Gave Her a New Look

Darlene Greene's career image makeover could actually be a matter of life and death. It's a given that, as the founder of an organization that helps victims of domestic abuse, she has to look professional and put together to win the support of authorities and donors. But it's also vital for her to look engaging, successful and, most of all, trustworthy, so victims will feel comfortable reaching out to her. She is, after all, the face of a survivor.

"Abusers rob their victims of their self-confidence. They tell them they're ugly, they're worthless, and that no one else will ever love them," says Darlene, who knows from personal experience that it's essential for victims understand their beauty and value. "I want them to see that if I can overcome an abusive situation, so can they."

While Darlene successfully extricated herself from an abusive marriage, her sister was not so fortunate, and it's her fatal experience that inspired Darlene to start the Ina Mae Greene Foundation "For My Sisters." Ina Mae, a young mother of four, was shot in the head and killed by her boyfriend, a Chicago law enforcement officer. Sadly, these were not the family's only experiences with domestic abuse. Their aunt had been stabbed to death by a rejected suitor.

"The FBI says that women who try to leave have a 75 percent chance of being murdered by their abusers," Darlene says. "I was lucky; but too many people, like my sister and my aunt, are not -- 5.3 million women in the United States are abused each year by someone who is supposed to love them." Darlene felt a moral obligation to her sister, her aunt, and the millions of women who suffer from domestic abuse, to provide a resource for these women.

While the Ina Mae Greene Foundation is Darlene's passion, in this economy she knew it would be foolish to quit her day job in beauty products sales, so she began working the equivalent of two full time jobs. She knew she had to sacrifice somewhere, and she thought spending less time shopping, primping and pampering herself together would be a good place to start.

Treating her to a well-deserved makeover

So AOL image experts offered to step in and take care of that for her at the Diva Toolbox Conference in Boston. Darlene was invited by Head Diva Janet Powers to fly in from her home in Dallas, where we would help her with the simple, yet fresh and chic style she deserves. When she speaks to community groups on behalf of her foundation, she needs a look that says "I am professional, yet I am accessible. This is what a survivor can look like, and you can get here too." A business suit would have been too stuffy, and pants too informal. She wanted the victims she works with to know that they're worth getting dressed up for.

We took her to the nearby Green Tangerine Spa and Salon in Burlington, Mass., where makeup artist Marie Martin used GloMinerals foundation and concealer in tones of cocoa and honey to even out Darlene's complexion, complemented by natural-colored eye shadow with a wee bit of eggplant, black mascara and eyeliner, and papaya blush. The object was to make her look effortlessly ready to give a presentation at a moment's notice.

new lookWe have to admit we were a little concerned when we turned color specialist Roger Plourde loose on Darlene's long locks. It seems she'd recently had extensions applied, but she wasn't happy with them, and she said she wouldn't mind having them removed. So away went the weave, and the short hair that remained was died a deep, coppery red. At one point we had to have faith that Boston Magazine's Best of Boston Hair Colorist would be able to work his magic, and we weren't disappointed. Once her hair was straightened and highlighted with gold, the results were stunning.

We found a beautiful linen jacket in robins egg blue (a cheerful, yet soothing color) at the Talbot's outlet, where it was marked down several times from $149.00 to about $37.00. We then paired it with a chocolate brown knit top and tweed skirt, selecting brown rather than black, for a less severe look. We pulled the outfit together with a blue-edged animal print scarf from the Carlisle Collection, and added additional sparkle with Lia Sophia jewelry stylishly provided by Cynthia Fitzgerald. A pair of mocha brown power heels that give Darlene confidence and elan completed the outfit.

Now Darlene is ready for a very busy October. It's Domestic Violence Awareness month, and people in the Dallas area will be wearing purple and white ribbons to honor that. Darlene is being featured on public service announcements on local radio, and she's interviewing survivors on her own radio show, 'For My Sisters,' on the Diva Toolbox Radio Network. She'll also be flying to Chicago to speak and give out clothing and other supplies to women in need at Family Rescue, as part of the No Excuse, Stop the Abuse campaign.

Darlene is well aware of the fact that it takes far more than a new hairstyle and outfit to fight the ravages of domestic abuse. But now she feels adequately armored, empowered and confident enough to forge ahead in battle. She could well be considered today's version of a warrior princess, and AOL Jobs is honored to help her defend the cause.

Get Darlene's makeover look with these similar styles:

Jacket: Irish Linen No-Close Jacket at Talbots Outlet ($74)
Shoes: Pour La Victoire T-Strap at Amazon.com on AOL Shopping (from $114)
Scarf: Silk Leopard Print Scarf at Spiegel on AOL Shopping ($29)
Top: Bisou Bisou Rib Mesh Top at J.C. Penney via AOL Shopping ($25)
Skirt: Classiques Entier 'Harvest' Tweed Skirt at Nordstrom on AOL Shopping ($100)
Earrings: Orbital Earrings from Lia Sophia ($32)
Necklace: Artistic Flair Necklace from Lia Sophia ($44)
Bracelet: Moon Dance Bracelet from Lia Sophia ($52)

Darlene's makeover outfit was provided by the Diva Toolbox from these sources: Talbots, WardrobePerfect.com, and CarlisleCollection.com. Darlene's jewelry was provided by: liasophia.com/cynthiafitzgerald. You can purchase Lia Sophia jewelry by contacting a Lia Sophia Hostess.

Get Darlene's makeup look with these beauty products:

Darlene's Makeup List:

Face Primer ($23)
Protective Liquid Foundation Satin in a blend of Cocoa Light and Cocoa Medium (from $30)
GloMinerals Concealer in Honey ($30)
Pressed Base in Cocoa ($30)
Eye Shadow Trio in Posh ($28)
Eye Shadow in Eggplant ($18)
Precision Eye Pencil in Black (from $16)
Volumizing Mascara in Black ($19)
Brow Pencil in Brunette ($16)
Blush in Papaya ($24)
Lip Pencil in Cocoa ($17)
Liquid Lips in Black Cherry ($15)

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Janet Powers

Please note the Diva Toolbox website is now http://www.womenstoolbox.com

September 11 2012 at 12:31 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Janet Powers

Please note the Diva Toolbox website is now www.womenstoolbox.com

September 11 2012 at 12:31 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Sara Edwards

Great story and makeover! Want more! Thanks for the motivation.

October 15 2010 at 2:02 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

Although Darlene looks great in the "after" picture, I actually thought she had a natural beauty in the "before" picture....minus the cap. Just lipstick and a bit of blush on her beautiful cheeks would have been fine. Thank you Darlene for all the work you do for abuse victims! Bless you!!!!

October 14 2010 at 2:37 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Nancy Leeser

I was there and saw the trasformation and met the wonderful woman behind it all.
Best of luck Darlene!

October 14 2010 at 2:24 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

i was once in a domistice volience relationship,for 16 years till i just one day saw myself without no more pride for my life was being run by my abuser,but when i saw how my abiuser was rising his hand towards my older son
who was only his step-son that is when i one night i grab a grocery bag with
just my work clothes and my oldest son and walk out to the backyard of my home and went to a neighbor to call a cab only to return within the following year to get my other children who i had to leave for i would have been dead if
i had taken them with me at that time,but i am a survivor,no consueling just my pride and life is what i have back and will never give it up,nothing ever becameof involing the law so i had to do things to my own thinking and my childrenwho are all grown now are who keep me and kept me sane,for it was for them and because of them that i thought of only,i may have destroyed a so call life with my spouse but i am alive still and most of all my children are too,so i
say to every abuse woman or men you can be a survivor.and have the life,the right kind of life that god put you on this earth for everyone to have and that you deserve.so miss darlene greene you look so good girl,and i do too.

October 14 2010 at 1:50 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

Looks great. Good for her.

October 14 2010 at 1:38 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

Darlene, I remember the abuse that was done to my Mom from the age of two and how my Mom suffered because of it, she became bitter and hateful because of the abuse from my Step-Dad and his family. Then finally she came to the US to live with me, and passed away on May 11th 2009. I looked at her and only wished that she had taken that walk when I first came to the US and live with me, but by the time she came she was bitter and broke down. Me on the other hand I took no foolishness off of no man, and would tell them from day one, you touch me you die, you touch me you turn your back on me you die. I don't take any foolishness of no man, most of them thinks that I am crazy, I also have two son's and I tell them if they ever physically or emotionally abuse a woman they too will have to deal with me, I tell them if it is not working then walk away. Thank the Lord I raise two wonderful men and they have love and compassion for the women that they come across. It is up to the Mother's to preach to our son's everyday from birth beating a woman dosen't make them a man and a man should respect every women that they may meet in their life time, that was the conversation at my breakfast table and dinner table everday, and I still speak to them about it in our conversation. Mother's have to be strong and preach to their son's about this sickness for it to stop. I don't know you Darlene, but I feel your pain and know what you have went through, and I say to you continue to reach out to the lost sister's of this terrible sickness that they are living with everyday and maybe by the grace of God they will finally get it and get out of this sickness that their abusers put them through. Stay strong and walk tall for God is in control. Love always

October 14 2010 at 1:28 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

Darlene you look GREAT!!!! I am also a survivor of Domestic Abuse. I've been out of the marriage for over 15 years and still suffer from the effects. Any suggestions on how I can heal completely and leave it all behind? Also how can I get involved in your efforts/organization?

October 14 2010 at 1:28 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Kelvin Wallace Sr

May God Blees you and keep you near my daer Sister!!!!

October 14 2010 at 1:18 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

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