Jobs Most Likely to Wreck Your Marriage

If your spouse helps people or touches them for a living, be careful -- you might be headed for a divorce. Helping professions and hospitality workers have some of the highest divorce rates in the country, according to a comparison of divorce rates among occupations.

The conventional wisdom is that police officers have high divorce rates. But a year-old analysis of the top 15 jobs with the highest divorce rate that recently made the rounds of the Internet doesn't even list police officers among the worst offenders. Based on data from the 2000 U.S. Census, it found that law enforcement workers had a lower divorce rate than the general population.

Before we try to explain why some of these jobs might have high divorce rates, here are the top 15 professions and their divorce rates:

  1. Dancer: 43%
  2. Bartender: 38%
  3. Massage therapist: 38%
  4. Gaming cage: 34%
  5. Extruding machine operator: 32%
  6. Gaming: 31%
  7. Factory: 29%
  8. Phone operator: 29%
  9. Nursing: 28%
  10. Entertainers, sports: 28%
  11. Porter: 28%
  12. Telemarketer: 28%
  13. Waiter: 27%
  14. Roofer: 26%
  15. Maid: 26%

The national divorce rate in 2009 was 10 percent. It's hard to know whether the above jobs are prone to more divorce or whether more unstable people are drawn to those professions. Professional dancers, athletes and entertainers, for example, have more opportunity to cheat on their spouses because they often work away from home and are surrounded by adoring fans. At least that's Tiger Woods' explanation.

Helping professionals, such as massage therapists and nurses, have a high amount of stress and work long hours, spending less time with their families. Hospitality workers, such as waiters, maids, porters and gaming workers, also work irregular hours in high-stress jobs, and come in contact with people on vacation who might be feeling a little randy and have time and money for a tryst on the job.

No matter what the profession, divorces are highest among jobs where workers face high stress and temptations, said Debra Opri, a divorce attorney in Beverly Hills, Calif.. Those temptations include other women, gambling and alcohol, Opri said.

Jobs that require extensive travel, odd hours and are high in stress can lead to divorce because the worker is away from their spouse too much and doesn't know how to deal with the stress away from home, said Ike Vanden Eykel, a Dallas divorce attorney for 37 years, in a telephone interview with AOL Jobs.

Working odd hours and then spending more time with co-workers instead of a spouse isn't the only thing that can lead to divorce, Vanden Eykel said. "One of the biggest causes of divorce is economic pressure," he said.

"When you can't make ends meet, that adds an economic pressure that you can't avoid," he said, adding that even highly paid CEOs who feel pressure at work can have high divorce rates.

Nighttime work can also lead to higher divorce rates, said Richard Fitzgibbons, director of the Institute for Marital Healing, on the Catholic News Agency website. "Those who work in the evenings are a distinct disadvantage," Fitzgibbons said, "because the marital friendship usually suffers, with ensuing significant loneliness."

Some of these jobs also don't pay well, which can lead to more stress in a marriage. Better-educated workers tend to have higher-paying jobs, which can provide less stress in marriages.

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Aaron Crowe is a freelance journalist in the San Francisco Bay Area.

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Ron Gentile

Good article. It would seem almost impossible to be in an occupation where you touch people and not get into trouble. And I agree about economic pressures. Money, kids and time are three big stressors in a relationship. I look about this topic in my book "The Four Factors: Should You Stay, Go or Improve Your Relationship?" If you're interested see: http://TheFourFactorsBook.com Thanks...

April 07 2011 at 6:59 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Paulette

I believe that any profession that involves tourists should be high on the list. People come and go and there is less chance of getting caught if your affair goes back home. A bief encounter, only the cheater knows.

November 30 2010 at 12:49 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Robert Clapp

Military should rank pretty far up in the list. Long abscences, stress of having to raise kids by one pareant a lot of the time, closeness of military people to persons of the opposite sex while deployed, especially in combat zones, being thrown together on ships with nowhere to go, opposite sexes both serving in isolated duty stations away from home, etc, all point to the fact that if you can't be with the one you love, then love the one you're with.

November 04 2010 at 9:38 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Jose

Include network marketing people. My wife is doing networking marketing for an american company. She is now doing this for about 8 years and until now she still not earning. Through the years all she does is invest on products to sell utilizing 5 credit cards and all her checks go straight to her debt. Also, they invest in too much travel (fake it until you make it kind of thing) and she creates more bond with her busiess partners than her family. The promise of "work from home" is actually "all work and never home". They talk about their business also during family gatherings when quality time is needed.

November 03 2010 at 11:58 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
bebe

Take a look around, seems to me people just don't give a damn anymore. We are living in a society of people who weren't raised right. A lot of women make me sick, they have to look sexy and turn on anybody that will look. They don't care if the guy is married or in a relationship. Any man is fair game to them so they can get their ego stroked. My husband works as a residential plumber. He is fair game for any lonely woman that is home and needs someone to talk to. They make appointments for no reason, answer the door in a towel...you get the idea. Just a bunch of SKANKS!

October 07 2010 at 2:20 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
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amy

I totally agree with you i am sick when i look at girls no a days i am proud to say i am woman that treasures herself.I didn't have to flaunt it to get a man.

November 30 2010 at 9:39 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Bored@Work

Wow, you seem bitter about something....

September 25 2012 at 4:15 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Joy

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH SARAANNE.... it's not the job, it's the simple fact that some are just unhappy at home, and don't realize this until they are out there in the workforce. It's been said many time's- that the divorce rate went through the roof when women started becoming independent...(no more staying home with the kids all day, ironing the hubby's shirts, having dinner ready...etc..) mostly due to the fact that a second income became a necessity. All I know, is I have had a few jobs, and found it flattering when flirted with...which lead to me being a cheater...NO MATTER WHAT JOB I WAS AT. BTW...I was a hairstylist for 15 years, married at the time, and never cheated with any clients...I DID however have an affair with my co-worker...yes, there are "straight" guy hairstylist!!

October 07 2010 at 9:30 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
ho chi zen

you see the case of Andrew luster or Anand jon alexander, who were in jail beacause of whore trappings. Dont worry., they will come from the jail, as early. Hence punishment is for criminals or whores, not for innocents, as the law states. where will you hide, you four legged animals? since you have four legs usually? like a cow.

October 07 2010 at 6:34 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Luke

They clearly didn't do a good job on this. US Navy Seals have a 78% divorce rate. That's the one that just jumps out at me off the top.

October 07 2010 at 3:49 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Janice

I have been a career nurse for 40 years and have been married to same wonderful guy for the past 40 years. What do ya say about that survey?? lol

October 07 2010 at 3:27 AM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply
ex

This is why he is the ex now.go out on the road for weeks at a time,doing who knows what with who knows who.Not bringing that crap home to me thank you,while I stay home taking care of his home & kids while he pursues his dream job as he put it.Well hope he is happy with that dream now cuz its all he has ot after 23 years of marriage and the kids are grown.Im off with a younger & better fit man,since truck driveing leaves a man in less desirable shape that only a whore or as they call them lot lizards would touch only for money.

October 07 2010 at 3:22 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply

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