Planning a wedding can be like having a second job, and for nine out of 10 women it's enough work that they admit to using some company time to make wedding plans, according to a recent survey.
And in the name of love, most co-workers and bosses are willing to put up with a bit of lost productivity, although only a third of the 1,000 women surveyed said they think their work was negatively affected by the wedding plans they made while on the job
With many wedding vendors open only during regular business hours, some transactions and conversations must be made between 8AM and 5PM, said Kristin Gast, 24, of Minneapolis, Minn., who didn't take part in the survey, and is getting married in July 2011. Gast, who blogs about her wedding plans, told AOL Jobs in an e-mail exchange that she can successfully get her wedding planning done during her lunch hour or after she's done with work for the day.
"Most of what I do is simply searching for inspiration, reviews and recommendations online -- and not actually planning, which comes later on in discussions with my fiance, friends and family," she wrote, adding she spends about two to five hours per week during work breaks searching online for wedding information.
Hours of planning required
The survey by TheKnot.com, WeddingChannel.com and ForbesWoman.com showed that women spend about 10 hours a week planning their wedding, and nearly 30 percent of it is done at work.
The survey also found that 20 percent of women admitted that more than half of their wedding arrangements were done at work and 41 percent said they did it whenever they could. But only 15 percent said that someone at work had commented about it.
Bride-to-be Andrea Bailiff, who works at a marketing website, told AOL Jobs that since a wedding is only one day, and unless you're inviting your whole company, it's best to keep the wedding plans to a minimum at work and remember that not everyone will be understanding.
"You've got your job to return to after your honeymoon," Bailiff wrote, "and if you slack or if relationships become estranged because of wedding planning at work, you may not have a job to return to!"
But time-sensitive wedding decisions do come up during work hours and need to be addressed ASAP, said Bailiff, who tries not to spend company time planning her wedding but has made the occasional phone call or sent an e-mail related to her wedding plans during work.
Employers often understand
Working as a nanny in 2004 while planning a wedding was a great job for Daphne Butas because of the regular breaks when the 8-year-old twins she was caring for were in school. Butas, now a freelance writer in Washington, D.C., said in a telephone interview with AOL Jobs that her employer told her that making wedding plans while running errands for the family and other job duties was OK as long as it didn't interfere with her work. It didn't, and she ended up doing 60-75 percent of her wedding planning while working as a full-time nanny.
"Sometimes I kind of felt bad about doing it at work, but my boss was fine with it," she said.
One reason why wedding planning may be supported at work is because the women are more serious about their career after getting married. The survey found that 38 percent of the women think being engaged and married has a positive impact on how they are perceived at work.
Bailiff agrees, at least partially: "I think when you're engaged you do have to prove yourself at work during that time – I work hard and don't give the impression that I'm planning my wedding at work (even though I may answer the occasional phone call or send the occasional e-mail)," she said. " I do tend to talk about my wedding plans with my colleagues and friends at work. I think this is more acceptable than surfing through the The Knot website at work."