by N. Bhatta
When you walk into a room full of colleagues, bosses, or clients, you might not say a word in the first few minutes but your body language has already spoken volumes about the type of person and worker you might be. Well over half of all communication is projected through body language, though we frequently aren't aware of the language our body is speaking in important situations. Make sure your body language doesn't have your career speaking in tongues and learn the physical lingo of a successful worker with the advice below.
Shifty eyes that avoid eye contact with others.
What Others See and Hear: A lack of eye contact hinders your ability to create a connection with the person or people you're speaking with. This oversight (no pun intended) gives others few reasons to trust you and your ideas. To build bonds and trustworthiness, actively concentrate on looking people in the eye not only when you are speaking but when they start talking as well.
Work that Works for You: A career as a telemarketer or in data entry means that you can keep your eyes on your work-and not on your coworkers-for most of the time.
Arms crossed in front of your body, holding your torso tight.
What Others See and Hear: Crossed arms make you appear guarded, unapproachable, and on the defense, as though you have something to hide from the people in the room with you. If you're having trouble relaxing your arms, try folding them neatly in your lap instead of across your chest.
Work that Works for You: Being on the defensive works wonderfully with a career in insurance, where skepticism is a favorable trait.
A broad grin showing all of your pearly whites.
What Others See and Hear: A smiling face suggests that you are eager, confident, and pleasant to work with. However, be careful to not smile too much when talking about serious subjects, as your grin might suggest that you aren't taking the discussion seriously enough.
Work that Works for You: If you're naturally a pleasant person, a career in sales is the perfect place for you to use your charm on customers.
Fidgeting, tapping, or shaking incessantly.
What Others See and Hear: If you can't remain still in a meeting or conversation, your constant movements make you look uncomfortable with yourself and others, which can cause a domino effect making other people in the room uncomfortable as well. If your hands shake, try discreetly holding a small object, like a pen. Keep your hands out of your pockets and your legs crossed to avoid other fidgeting and tapping.
Work that Works for You: Fidgeting is usually a sign of not having the ability to stand being cooped up in meetings, so try a field like healthcare or retail that takes you out of an office.
A stance as strong as an oak-tree.
What Others See and Hear: Great posture suggests that you are confident, can lead well, are trustworthy, and are rooted in your beliefs. Just make sure that your excellent posture isn't negated by a stiff, immobile upper body.
Work that Works for You: Perfect posture is a must for someone working as an executive or in marketing, positions where confidence is crucial to success.
Legs wide open, arms stretched out, taking up lots of space.
What Others See and Hear: You're clearly comfortable with yourself and don't mind being noticed, but taking up too much space in a small room can be perceived as thoughtless and arrogant. Furthermore, your casual stance may limit the ability of others to take you as seriously as you might like. Try taking up less space by bringing your legs and arms closer to your torso and sitting up straighter in your chair for a more professional demeanor.
Work that Works for You: The need to be seen is a is a must for someone in command of a group of people, and as a teacher or in a management position you'll find your need to spread yourself around to be an added bonus.
Leaning towards the person who is talking.
What Others See and Hear: A subtle lean towards the individual who is presenting indicates that you are a gracious listener and are interested and respectful of that the other person has to say. Be sure to not dive too deeply into the other person's space-leaning too closely may move the other person out of their comfort zone.
Work that Works for You: Any field like hospitality where a pleasant bond between two people is needed in order to have a successful outcome is a great choice for you if you're a natural leaner.
A shirttail out, a missing button, and other slovenly behaviors.
What Others See and Hear: You can't expect people to take you seriously if you don't take the time to put yourself together properly. A quick check in the mirror and a change of shirt could make or break your career trajectory in many fields.
Work that Works for You: If you'd rather people focus more on your accomplishments than your clothes, look to careers that are notable for their casual nature, like computer and internet-oriented jobs.
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Aug 25th 2009 @ 3:53PM Tommy
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Jul 7th 2009 @ 2:19PM Ted
I like to stuff a big roll of pastry dough in my pants and let them just wonder......
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Jul 7th 2009 @ 2:39PM DGR
Yeah, but pants stuffing only works if you are a guy...hmmm I guess I could try bra stuffing? Too funny!
Jul 8th 2009 @ 2:26PM rhp
That is great Ted, but I think it might be better if you put the dough in the front.
Jul 7th 2009 @ 4:52PM Liz
omg that is too funny!!! Glad people still have a sense of humor....Rock on!
Jul 7th 2009 @ 5:12PM tami
LOLOLOL!!!!!
Jul 7th 2009 @ 7:58PM fochap
That is so funny!! Ha! Ha!
Jul 7th 2009 @ 6:11PM steve
Haha! I can't stand that body gesture psychology bullshit. I"m nervous, fidget, don't look people in the eye, so how do you think this shit makes me feel when I read it?
Jul 8th 2009 @ 1:36PM Laura
Thanks, Ted. This is the most real comment on AOL ever.
Laura
Jul 7th 2009 @ 6:21PM melis
lol
Jul 7th 2009 @ 6:56PM Lynn
Thanks Ted, that was the best one! Thanks for making me laugh. Ofcourse now when I am speaking with a man, I will wonder if its real or if its Pillsbury.
Lynn
Jul 7th 2009 @ 6:57PM allison
your comment is WEIRD!!
Jul 7th 2009 @ 7:19PM Kevin
Best reply yet Ted, I'm gonna have to give it a shot.
Jul 15th 2009 @ 8:55AM Liz
Ted, I think you'd be great in the bakery department since you like pastry dough so much. Or maybe in the underwear department at Macy's? I picked my nose at my last job interview and didn't get the chef job I was applying for, but at least a got a job. I work as a dishwasher at the same place. Body language is way over-rated unless you are an absolute expert at it. The only thing that I consider a dead giveaway is peeing your pants.
Jul 15th 2009 @ 8:56AM Elaina
lol Ted... is that really bread dough?
Aug 1st 2009 @ 3:31PM Sage
Ted, that's mature. You must be very important.
Aug 29th 2009 @ 6:24PM Anna
::SPEEEW:: Thanks for the laugh, rhb! :D
Sep 10th 2009 @ 7:09PM Dennis
DGR,we guys love camel toe
Sep 26th 2009 @ 5:15PM bryze
I have a very good sense of humor but that sounds very immature.How is that relevant?
Sep 29th 2009 @ 11:45AM bryze
Steve I am too but the advice is meant to help people who do do those things!