by Anthony Balderrama, CareerBuilder.com writer
Are you rude?
- You rarely steal candy from toddlers.
- You don't trip people on crutches anymore.
- You can't even remember the last time you made someone cry.
All in all, you could do a lot worse. You might not be in the running for a Good Samaritan of the Year Award, but you're a pretty decent person.
But how about your co-workers? Plenty of our daily interactions at work are befuddling. You're often left wondering if people are deliberately rude or just ignorant of their behavior. After all, you'd like to think people aren't going out of their way to inconvenience you.
With that in mind, we've taken a look at unappreciated behavior that rears its head in an effort to explain why it's rude and why you shouldn't do it (or why someone shouldn't do it to you).
1. You know what's rude? When someone --
Interruptions are offensive on many levels. When you interrupt someone, you suggest that your time and ideas are more important them everyone else's and that you have no interest in listening to what they have to say.
A rare offense is forgivable, but habitual interruption is problematic, according to professional coach Susan B. Wilson. "Some folks interrupt incessantly, whether you are on the phone, in a meeting, deep in thought or in another conversation."
2. No thanks
Aside from the phrases "Because I said so!" and "No," perhaps the most common thing you'll hear parents say to a child is, "And what do we say?" The prompt is, of course, for the child to tell someone "thanks" for a kind gesture -- a practice lost on many adults.
"The following statistic bears repeating," Wilson says. "In a 2002 Public Agenda survey, 48 percent of adults expressed only 'sometimes' encountering people who made an effort to say 'please' and 'thank you'; 16 percent said they saw such behavior 'practically never.'" A few words to show gratitude can put someone in a good mood -- or at the very least can keep someone out of a foul mood. Why not do it?
3. Table manners
Kara C.* has her share of venting to do about workplace rudeness, and at the top of the list is the lack of housekeeping manners she witnesses. In her company's communal kitchen, you won't have to look hard to see evidence that someone's recently enjoyed a snack in one of the cups or bowls littering the counter. She wants to remind her colleagues that maids don't work in the office, so they should clean up after themselves.
4. That's just #@*%ing rude!
Language is very subjective, and everybody has his or her own unique way of speaking. One person's "Howdy" is another person's "What's up?" When it comes to R-rated language, one person's "hell" is another person's "H-E-double hockey sticks." And that's something you should remember when interacting with others at work. It's less about the profanity itself and more about the fact that you don't care if it bothers the people around you.
5. Yes, all of us can hear you now
Teenagers are very private about phone conversations. They might be young, but they will give you a scowl that makes you feel like you're the child and they're the adult if you eavesdrop. Strange, then, how a dozen years later, many people do a 180 on this practice and want everyone to hear their conversations.
Cubicles are the norm in many workplaces, so one person's speakerphone conversation becomes an entire floor's business. Never mind how annoying it is to hear a conversation you're not a part of; think how bothersome it is to try to concentrate on work when someone's blathering in your ears. Rather than force your call on the whole department, invest in a headset or just hold the receiver in your hand.
6. I'm sorry, do I know you?
When you're walking down the hall and a co-worker is walking toward you, give a smile, a nod or some other greeting. No one's asking you to engage in a bear hug or to pretend you two are best friends. All anyone wants is an acknowledgement that you see them and that you're not going out of your way to avoid having any contact with them.
Why is this important, anyway? Well, think about the alternative: You walk down the hall and pretend not to see them by averting your eyes. You'd rather do anything but give a quick acknowledgement to this person. What kind of message does that send?
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*Kara asked that her full name be withheld.
Anthony Balderrama is a writer and blogger for CareerBuilder.com. He researches and writes about job search strategy, career management, hiring trends and workplace issues.




Mar 30th 2009 @ 2:05PM Budd Bider
Yes, I work with these ignorant creepos all day long. Nothing is more irritating than a co-worker who waddles along and then stands next to you listening to your conversation. I am planning on switiching the topic and talking about genital itching the next time.
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Mar 30th 2009 @ 2:19PM Cynthia
jajajajajaja yes you should i think that would be hilarious!
Mar 30th 2009 @ 3:00PM Darlene Oberheim
LOL!
Mar 30th 2009 @ 3:23PM Dee
What about the partner who chain smokes in a Landmark "smoke-free" office building located in a "no-smoking-in-public-places" state despite the fact that people on the floor around him complain about it and nothing is ever done except the occasional obligatory "can you keep down to one pack a day" speech from one of the other partners? Now that's rude!
Mar 30th 2009 @ 4:23PM J Martin
I solved that problem-- I work by myself. Workes out great.
Apr 10th 2009 @ 10:16AM part-timer
Great idea! Genital itching... bet my rude female boss would love that as she stands there while I'm on the phone - something I would NEVER do to her. Skank.
Mar 30th 2009 @ 5:38PM bob
omg so true
Apr 10th 2009 @ 9:53AM ED
THATS GREAT.....I COMBAT THAT VERY THING ON A DAILY BASIS.I OWN A SMALL COMPANY WITH 14 EMPLOYEES AND THE THING THAT DRIVES ME CRASY IS THIS PERSON WILL NEVER LET ANYONE FINISH WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY
Apr 10th 2009 @ 12:07PM KMB
LOL thats great!
Apr 10th 2009 @ 1:18PM silverstreak
Just using the words, "ignorant creepos" lets me know that your behavior leaves a lot to be desired as well. Of course, you probably never look at your own behavior.
Apr 10th 2009 @ 12:37PM Laurie
It's a good thing you found this site to talk about them behind their back...
Apr 10th 2009 @ 1:18PM Bruce
Isn't it interesting that the very people who complain about rudeness are the rudest people in the world? lol..It kind of reminds me when George karlin was on the Dennis Miller show one time and he told Mr. Miller that americans were idiots and the whole audience started applauding. Then Dennis Miller turned to George Karlin and said "oh, you need to tell the audience you are talking about them." lol...enough said!
Apr 10th 2009 @ 1:27PM Heather
Gotta love that co-worker who actually scratches his genitals while you are trying to have a serious conversation w/him. Seriously, I always wanted to tell hime he should see a doctor about that itch!
Apr 10th 2009 @ 2:41PM Steve
Bud,
So refreshing to see you deciding to talk about something that you really do know about....genital itching.
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Apr 22nd 2009 @ 5:26PM davidrep
Hahahahaha! Good idea!
Apr 22nd 2009 @ 5:31PM LUCILLE
LOL TOO FUNNY!!! THAT'LL TEACH'EM
Apr 22nd 2009 @ 6:00PM Toni
You shouldn't be having a private, personal, conversation at work, to begin with! Save your personal calls for home. I don't care whom you're speaking to, I don't want to hear it.
Apr 23rd 2009 @ 6:30PM Pam
You shouldn't be having personal conversations at work. If you don't want to share them, have them at home.
Jun 15th 2009 @ 4:13PM Diann
I have one,
What about a manager coming into an office with multi staff
and whispers into another Managers' ear.
I think that's just plain RUDE!!!!